I woke up yesterday and thought, “It is Monday, January 7th. Now what?” It felt like the most boring day to have ever existed.
Guess what? This is most of our days. In the Christian calendar there are “Festival” times and there are “Ordinary” times. And 33 weeks out of the year are Ordinary times. I hate to break it to ya folks, but most of our lives are ordinary times.
Fresh off of a season that felt like a whole lot of festival, coming down was abrupt. I like to refer to it as the “Day after Prom” syndrome. Like the times when you have been planning for so long, have a magical night, and the next day you wake up and it is all over. Most of you that know me, know that I tend to exist in a constant state of festival. I seek out the fun, the crazy, the over-the-top situations. So when I find myself, a festival personality, trying to live in ordinary days, I get uncomfortable. I want to know what is next, or at least talk about how awesome the last thing was.
I was talking to a friend about this ordinary feeling, wondering how to make the most of these days. And she reminded me of something we used to do that allowed us to transition from the festival to the ordinary. The Debrief. We spent time reliving, just for a day or hours even, the magic we had just experienced. It gave us time to “come down” and to remember how great it was. For me, it was almost a reassurance that it had actually been that great; it wasn’t all in my head.
Then our conversation went down a more yogi road. I shared with her that the idea of staying present is to detach from experiences, that to be present means that you don’t sit in the past experiences or wait for the next thing. It means that you enjoy where you are right here, now. And I know that remaining detached from expectations or experiences keeps me able to respond more easily to life for sure.
And yet, I am a person who LOVES to reminisce, to tell stories about my past, and to laugh and cry about all that I’ve been through.
Maybe the key to these ordinary times is the perfect blend of loving the crazy times and remembering them, finding the joy in the everyday, and looking forward to all of the magic to come.